The Sexual Hero

The following is excerpted from The Gay Man’s Kama Sutra by Terry Sanderson.

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Paragons of [male beauty and] perfection do exist, and occasionally we see them walking down the street and we sigh. But gorgeous men who may look like gods are just human like the rest of us, and while they may be desirable for sex – or maybe just sexual fantasy – they may still be intolerable as human beings.

A beautiful face is no guarantee that its processor is an unselfish lover or a charming companion. Arrogance, callousness, and bad breath are not restricted to the plain and ordinary; and thoughtfulness, concern, and generosity can be cultivated by anyone.

For sex to have long-term meaning, a pretty face and a toned body are not enough on their own. . . . A sexual hero may have a handsome face, he many have a bubble butt, and a penis like a horse’s, but he won’t remain a hero for very long if he does not know how to make his lover feel desired and, more importantly, his equal.

A true sexual hero is someone who can charm his way into your affection, whatever his physical attributes (or lack of them). A man who wouldn’t attract a second glance in a crowded room may have the skills of a true romantic. He may be able to seduce you with his voice alone, or as a caring and attentive lover. Someone who gains his pleasure from your pleasure is worth his weight in rubies.

- Excerpted from The Gay Man’s Kama Sutra by Terry Sanderson.


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